Yeah, one of my best buddies’ wedding is scheduled on May 18th 2006. Yesterday, they fix my cousin’s wedding also on May 18th! Ironically, their names are so similar! Aruna & Arun. To add to the coincidence, both their spouse’s names start with alphabet V!
Now, my problem is, who’s wedding should I attend? One wedding is in Palakkad and the other in Thiruvaroor
* A Friend is somebody who I cry to, a cousin is not!
* A Friend is somebody who worries about me, a cousin is not!
* A Friend is somebody who’ll feel my absence, a cousin might not!
* At my friend’s wedding, I have other friends to have fun with. At my cousin’s, well, relatives are not as fun as friends…are they ever?!
* Cousin has a reception later, but friend doesn’t…
* Friend has already invited and booked the tickets, cousin, well, am not sure if I will be invited. It is just assumed that it is mandatory to attend.
I am not sure if there is an easy mode of transportation between Thiruvaroor & Palakkad. Even if there is one, will I be allowed to travel alone?! Frankly, I’d love to attend the friend’s wedding and my cousin’s reception.
Well, am not a rebellious feminist without family values, but, only during such instances, I feel guys have an advantage over women in an orthodox family setup. If it was a male member, commuting between Thiruvaroor & Palakkad wouldn't be an issue!
What are the odds that I will be let to do that? Will I win the case? Isn’t my wish a reasonable one?
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did u let ur best friend know about this blog :-)
I will...if this would ease her anger!! but I rather not let my cousin know about this ;-)
Some quantitative factors ...
Palakkad to Coimbatore - 60 kms
Coimbatore to Thanjavur - 260 kms
Thanjavur to Thiruvarur - 70 kms
(Do not ask why this route ... just a rough straight line ...)
That is almost 400 kms .... Even if you have a car, you are looking @ an 8 hour drive ...
Question is, is attending both events feasible, given the times at which the muhurthams are scheduled ???
That is one part of it ...
Other part is that you can come up with reasons as to why you cannot attend cousin's wedding ....
(1) Office assignment : You have to go to Kerala to check out if a new office location is feasible - contingency planning @ the organization level ... You have been chosen from about 500 eligible candidates ....
(2) An IBM examination is scheduled on the precisely the same day .... conducted only once in a year .... you have been preparing for the past 6 months ...
Any other excuses ?!?
I would any day suggest you do what makes you happy...
at 56, maybe u cannot attend ur niece's or ur friend's kid's wedding because of physical illnesses...so you do not have an option then...
but today, you can do your thing.You can do whatever makes you happy - eat chocolates, travel all round the world, just be yourself, live in your own terms...
one husband and 2+ kids later, you just cant do your thing...
I dont think you should lie for this or make excuses...Say you want this, and go ahead...
and to add to the list of differences, IF you do want to attend ur cousin's wedding, your friend would understand; but if you wanted to attend ur friend's wedding, your cousin might not...
if he/she does, you've got another friend :-)
hey yadhvi, i faced a similar problem few months back n decided that friendship is more important!! relatives, in my opinion, will have reasons to complain even if u go! and the distance factor is against ur attending both.....
now is the time for u to come up with the most creative excuse for not attending the cousin's wedding :-) its easy for me with excuses - the most important case in my life always comes up on these days.....hehehe
There is a train from trichur to trichy. Train no 6686. Train name is Trichy express.
The train starts at 23.15 at trichur and reaches Trichy by 07.15 in the morning.
Book in a 3rd AC coach. Its very safe.
And I guess you get direct buses from Trichy to Tiruvarur :-)
Yadhvi, it is so sorry dat ur cousin is not a frnd of urs. If i m asked, ennoda lifela, my best frnd is my cousin. Appuram than matha frnds ellam.
And if u feel the cosuin is not close to u, then just dont attend the marraige. Anyway ur parents will attend on ur presence.
And michelle, if u dont mind, i want to say something. In a conservative city like chennai, it is very difficult to allow a gal to travel alone far distances. So it is very difficult to live for ourselves. ( no hard feelings )
naveenan,
Guess I have grown out of lying my way out... Have done that enough ;-)
michelle,
In a way, agree to what you said.. Ultimately its the happiness that matters..
mukund,
ungaluku argue pannradhuku dhan solli koduthu irukaangale..I bet you'll win your case...and lucky you.. But you should agree, being a male just adds up as an unfair advantage for you in the present society..
pesaama coin-a toss panni paathudunga... edhukku veena confuse pannikittu
ferrari,
thanks for all the research and efforts..but guess I dont have too much choice here...
shastry,
Nope..am not as close to my cousin as am to my buddy...
Well, Missing a friend's wedding is tough, but sacrficable for family sentiments,as she'll understand.. But there are some unsacrificable demands in such a conservative setup..
balaji,
how I wish itz as easy as this?!
may be u should engage me n i'll win the case for u :-) don't know if i have any unfair advantage though.....enga aathula enakku neraiya restrictions irukku, sonna neenga sirippel!! had a tough fight the last time i had such a dilemma...
yadhvi
I honestly feel that u should attend you friend's wedding.may be u can have a family get together later, but not with all your friends.dont miss the fun. hope your parents understand what your true happiness is and agrees.all the best buddy.
Shastry
Conservative city like Chennai?????er, then what would you call other places like Coimbatore, Salem, Trichy?? Chennai is a metro for God's sake, and talking of a gal travelling long distances, the blogger yadhvi herself has gone all the way to US on her own...I've been to London, US (different states in US), Kerala, & Banaglore on my own...its not hard for a girl to travel, pal, its hard for other people to Let her travel...to Let her have her own identity, and her own likes and dislikes...
When girls these days have travelled to outer space on their own, I mean, without parents or family :-), its a pity there are still people thinking girls just cant do their thing!
Ah!! nan kashta pattu adicha comment kaanum :(
Okay me re-typing..
It is a very difficult choice to make.. Well talk to your parents ... tell them that your cousin has a reception here too.. so u can attend that .. and that your heart is gonna be at your friends wedding even if u do come..
I think your parents wil understand.. Otherwise.. like I have said " we end up doing things that other ppl want"
If i were you,I would have gone for my friend's wedding..anyway its up to you:)..and seems like its wedding season..cos on may 21st,three of my friends are getting married..luckily two of them are marrying each other..so two weddings..one hour apart
Hi Shikha,
Welcome to the post! yeah! Wedding bells everywhere!
btw, I have traded this for a Spinster party at B'lore :-)
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